It is believed that it is easier to meet a worm-eaten croach, than a faithful man. So do all men change? It's time to figure it out.
Of course, there is such a category of men - womanizer. They, as a rule, are not too picky in connections, and at times and are omnivorous. Do not worry about issues of morality, are often dependent on sex and dragged on themselves a pile of complexes. Going for this will have to reconcile with the fact that the remake of the husband will not work and will have to endure all his adultery.
We are interested in another category of men, tofortunately, the most numerous. They are determined to have a strong and harmonious relationship with one woman, but they, under certain circumstances, are capable of treason. So, do all men change wives? Statistics say that about 75% of men are affected by this weakness.
Treason of a husband serves as a signal that something went wrong in relations, some of his needs are not satisfied, there is not enough energy.
For example, a wife does not show sensitivity, does not payhe has enough time, is not interested in his affairs. Perhaps the family is mired in problems, and the new novel allows a man to take a break from them, take their mind off and, perhaps, remember himself as he was before his marriage.
It happens that some do not have the ease in a relationship, flirting. After all, such a love game raises the mood and vitality, but at the same time destroys the family.
So do all men change? Of course not, but you can bring almost any of them to treason.
If you suspect a husband of treason, act to fix it. Espionage and scandals are not included in the list of measures. To begin with, you can try to discuss everything and ask him to clarify the situation.
To do this, you need a certain courage, you mustbe ready for a direct question to get a direct answer, namely, to listen to admission of treason. Do loving men change? Unfortunately yes. Are all women ready to accept this truth? Not everyone succeeds in forgiving and preserving relations after such a revelation.
The main thing in this situation is nothing to decide onemotions, do not listen to anyone's advice. It is better to take a timeout, drain the steam and think, because you can break the relationship at any time, but then it can be very difficult to recover, sometimes impossible.
You do not need to blame all responsibility on the "scoundrel traitor", both are always to blame for treason, of course, if it's not about women's women.
How to behave if treason still happened? There is no unequivocal answer to this question. It is important to decide for yourself whether you want to keep a relationship or not.
If you decide to keep a family, tryswitch, do not think about the bad, but on the contrary, remember all the good things that you had since the day of the meeting. It can be a honeymoon, family holidays, trips, the birth of children.
Try in this period to communicate only with those,who supports you and believes in your marriage. Stay away from those who will try to make you feel guilty. If you can not avoid communication, abstract, focus on some kind of scenario, for example, communicate with his parents as with your grandfather and grandmother and skip over their notations.
Do not communicate with "well-wishers" who consider it their duty to keep you informed of all the nuances of the development of the relationship between your husband and his mistress.
If you decide that you can not continue to maintain relationships, allow yourself to suffer. Set yourself strict time limits, for example, give yourself three days for sorrow.
In this period, do what you want: cry, hysteria, beat the dishes. Let me get up out of you. After that you may want to sleep. Allow yourself to sleep and rest. Come to your senses and turn the page over.
Answer the question, can a man change if he receives from his wife everything he needs for happiness? Will he be wasting energy to find what he has in abundance? It is unlikely.
The most difficult thing is to understand what yoursecond half. Unfortunately, people seldom talk about their problems and feelings, preferring to charge the partner with accusations and reward him with unflattering epithets. If everything was different, the situation could be resolved without bringing it to betrayal.
You need to teach yourself to talk about your feelings,and using "I-sayings": "I'm offended," "I'm angry," "I'm upset," "I'm sick of it." Try not to use "you-statements": "you insulted me," "you deceived", "you are guilty." One should also not step on his wife's throat and demand in an ultimatum that he urgently confess that he does not like it in your relations.
Begin with yourself and honestly tell about yourfeelings. Soon your partner will also pick up the baton and also learn how to talk about what he feels. The main thing is not just listening, but discussing and drawing conclusions. Try to understand what the partner does not like and correct his behavior.
Loyalty in relationships is not a myth, it is possible, it is only necessary to work on strengthening them together. The secret of harmony is simple - do for the partner what he likes and do not do what he does not like.
We will now look more closely at the causes of treason, andcan a loving man change. Most often in male treachery, a woman is accused: she lost her shape after giving birth, did not suit him in bed, did not follow her. The man, on the contrary, is justified, explaining the trips to the left with a penchant for polygamy. What can I do if my husband is off to a halt and how to fix it?
First, let's find out who is to blame. According to psychologists, responsibility for actions lies with those who commit them. According to the latest studies, polygamous, by their nature, both men and women. But unless, as intelligent beings, we should not think about the consequences of our actions and control animal instincts? The ability to control desires does not depend on sex.
Excess weight, loss of attractiveness, lack ofsex - not the main reasons for betrayal, because they change and young beauties, and celebrities, and ordinary girls. What is the secret? Is it possible to protect yourself against treason?
Can! To begin with, you need to understand yourself, understand your essence, get acquainted with your subpersonalities, their desires and needs, and then get acquainted with the hypostases of the partner, his desires and needs.
What for? To make it easier to understand and accept each other, not trying to fit the universally recognized standards of the ideal husband or wife. After all, betrayals often happen because of unwillingness to accept something in a partner. Most often these are those aspects of his personality that are rejected by our culture and morality.
Imagine now that in his life there will bea person who will take these of his features. Do not ridicule or condemn, but on the contrary, appreciate and take for granted, help to open up. What is the probability that it is here that he will try to satisfy his needs?
So, now let's all allow? Of course not, but people have certain feelings that are of paramount importance and they simply need to be expressed. Often wives demand from their men that they are not just a pay-boys, but girls who are excellent pupils in starched aprons. They just want to make their husbands comfortable, and they sometimes need to be wild and evil.
So, let's talk about the main reasons for the change and how to get out of the situation.
Perhaps the most common reason. Not all couples go through this test. The appearance of the baby changes the whole way of life of the family, the woman is devoted to the child all the time, and if you add sleepless nights, failures in sexual life, lack of attention and elementary opportunity to communicate in a quiet environment, the child becomes for her husband not only an obstacle, but sometimes a competitor. All this makes a man look for happiness on the side.
What to do? Allot time for her husband. Better not give a damn about cleaning, but find time for sex. Dust on the chest he will forgive you, but the lack of intimacy is unlikely, and yes, you agree, this occupation will like more.
Almost every man has a hobby. Someone plays hockey, someone in billiards on Fridays, someone has the largest collection of photos of Maya Plisetskaya, someone does not represent her life without World of Tanks, and someone on Saturdays goes to the bath. And if women are ready to sacrifice their hobbies, most men do not. Therefore, if you forbid your husband to do what he likes, it will ruin your relationship and distance him from you. Her husband will feel that you are strangling him, limiting his freedom.
Of course, if you need his help, justask your spouse to postpone your favorite occupation this time, but do not put ultimatums, do not demand or pressure him. Respect his hobbies, or better divide, it will benefit your relationship.
A disgusting feeling that destroyed many families. Jealousy you destroy the image of the coveted woman that has developed about you with your husband. Doubts about yourself you suggest to him that there are other, more worthy women, and you can push him to betrayal. Being jealous in an empty place, you cause aggression in a man, and he gradually loses interest to you. Can a loving man change in this situation? The answer is obvious.
What to do? Work on yourself, become an independent person. Then you will simply attract his attention even more.
A man is a getter.Bringing home a mammoth, especially if this mammoth is big, he feels like a really cool guy. Unfortunately, financial stability is a variable, and if the family starts having problems with money, this greatly affects the self-esteem of men.
If, in addition, the wife begins to humiliate himdignity, constantly reminding of failure and aggravating the situation, the relationship can be completely upset. Do all men change wives if they constantly beat their ego? Perhaps not all, many simply break off the relationship.
Tell your man that he is strong, that he will succeed. Inspire, and he will turn mountains!
An unsatisfied man will look for a woman onside, and this is the law. And no matter how often you have sex, the main thing here is its quality. Nine percent of the changes are due to dissatisfaction with the sexual life, according to statistics. Do all men change if their wives do not satisfy them in bed? Most!
Study your man, talk to him,discuss sexual problems and share your desires. He wants to be a good lover, so let him do this, let him try for you. Otherwise, he decides to become a good lover for someone else.